How to deal with Loneliness.

Now I know many people are expecting some solutions on the issue of loneliness and its perfectly understandable to feel that way its not the best feeling in the world but its definitely something you can survive sometimes being lonely isn't a bad thing. It allows you to focus more on yourself and take a deeper look at you better you and learn more about you. Its not the worst thing in the world to be lonely it is if its long term & for a matter of years in which case is maybe for a reason. I think maybe its better to be alone just you less drama & fights and arguments its so much better to be lonely than to be around many people that you can never get along with. So be lonely & be happy. Its not exactly a great feeling but a little loneliness wont kill you nope if definitely wont. loneliness is a blessing sometimes I wish I could live on my own but the situation is so complex that I don't see that happening any time soon. So to all you lonely people out there. I envy you in the mean time don't kill yourself just pray hard its the best advice I can give I know it isn't easy but suicide is never the answer. I Maybe will write soon on why suicide is a horrible thing the many reasons if I get one request that's all just one if not that idea will rest in peace.  Although it may not seem this way just remember God Loves you no matter what you have done in life you can change for better at any time don't let your mistakes define you.   Be lonely be happy focus on you and just living and leave all the pain and drama behind.

How to straighten your Hair like a Professional.

I think this info might be of some use to ladies who don't know anything about the subject. I remember when I first started straightening my hair I was kinda clueless not much just a little. This is my advice from experience. Anyways its no science but I know some people do have trouble keeping their hair straight especially people with very curly hair.






Step 1. Soak ur hair in oil any oil coconut/olive oil. Nourish your hair a little especially since your going to put it through the inferno.








Step 2. According to John Frieda straight hair begins in the shower. That is soo true if u have curly hair then you should use a shampoo + conditioner for straight hair. John Frieda or Paul Mitchell are not only high end brands its not just for the name. They actually work which is the amazing thing unlike some products with tall claims that dissapoint they actually deliver.  If you don't have super curly/curly hair then u can skip this step or at least use the conditioner along with whatever shampoo of ur choice. You might want to shampoo at least twice any traces of oil left back will fry your hair during the straightening process. Condition generously.




Step 3. Wrap ur hair in a towel or one of those terry cloth type towels designed for wet hair. But honestly a normal towel would do. Leave your hair wrapped in a towel for about an hour and a half. That's one 1hr 30min so that it can absorb all the excess water don't ever rush into combing & straightening if there's even a drop of water at the ends and blow drying is an unnecessary step if you have a wet to dry straightener/Flat Iron.




Step 4. Take down the towel now at this point all the excess water is absorbed you can now spray on a heat protectant of your choice. I like to use the ones that claim to protect your hair from 450 degrees of heat like Loreal Paris Color Vibrancy Dual Protect Spray which claims to keep your color from fading & protect your hair from heat damage. It works ok. I cant say that I have seen any noticeable results which is weird bcuz it looks like it has oil in it but left my hair dry but that's just my experience maybe it can work well for you. Never be discouraged to try something just because someone had a bad experience doesn't mean its going to be the same for you. So always use a heat protectant many people love Tresemme heat protectant spray plus its affordable. But if your not on a budget you should absolutely use John Frieda or Paul Mitchell products bcuz they work so good ok so go ahead and spray product evenly through your hair using let that sit for 2 min now gently start combing through ur hair starting from the ends working your way up to the top. Now you can section and begin straightening. Remember the higher the heat the better. That's what they do in the salon you walk in and they just pass it through in a jiffy and ur hair is gets straight like a needle. Please don't be afraid of heat. I know people whose so afraid of heat bcuz their hair is thin & fine and their deathly afraid that they might damage their hair or it might fall off or something please set ur straightener to the highest heat taking small sections of hair u want to pass ur iron over each section 2 to 3 times. Apply a serum to moisturize ur hair a little if u have oily hair don't use much but remember dry hair means brittle hair more prone to frizz and damage. Last thing spray evenly some hair spray through your hair and comb through if that didn't help then you didn't do it right lol. Bcuz im always right. :)

Hydrogen Peroxide Uses & Dangers

Here' the 411 on Hydrogen Peroxide. I'm going to use the SSS Method or what I call Short,Sweet & Simple so basically its getting to the point.  There are many articles about HP its uses for home cleaning & Health.  Its the health articles that worry me the most telling people its good to use & that its used in many Dental/Teeth Whitening products which is true however that doesn't mean using it on ur own is equally safe after all no ones going to write an article & tell u to use something knowing about possible dangers right.? WRONG! The problem with many of these stupid articles is that they are never specific on what theyre claiming they never give clear guide lines & its absolute sh*t.  Here's why.


Dangers of Hydrogen Peroxide. I recently bought HP last week to use I intended to make my own home remedy to help remove tartar lol if only. So last night I noticed that there was something on the floor I could have mistaken it for water in fact I did bcuz I aslo had a bottle of water on the floor. Then I noticed the black bag with the HP lying sideways GOOD GRIEF most of it had leaked. I only picked up the bag wiped it up & in a matter of seconds my hand began to burn & sting really bad. In one minute the skin on my hand turned white it looked as if I had pasted white powdered chalk. I obviously soaped & washed my hand immediately and waited for a few minutes before thoroughly cleaning the area. After about 10mins I used a drop of soap/Dawn on my floor using a rag meant for cleaning and soaped and rewiped the area a few times im extra careful & OCD when it comes to cleaning esp when its dangerous stuff/cases like this bcuz I have a little angel/ Dog. So I wanted to be extra safe that there wasn't any residue on the floor. He always hangs out in my room & I was so worried if he came in contact with it during the day. Luckily it didn't seem so. At the time he was sleeping in my moms room so he was out of the way it was night. My hand after an hour turned back to its normal color but it was red & blistered which really shocked me I mean its peroxide weve all heard about how peroxide can be used on cuts as an antiseptic & in ears to remove excess wax on teeth to lighten it. The bottle doesn't even have any directions or suggestions or warning's which is absolute shit. Because it is very dangerous & they recommend using it on something as delicate as cuts even for dogs.! Its shocking & crazy & incorrect of course some people will hate this blog cuz they love HP & never had any bad experiences with it so they would dismiss this but this is a very serious issue so what ever you do be very careful if u do decide to use it. The bottle I bought was a 9% solution it was the only one available but apparently 9% is super strong. So strong that next morning my hand was swollen hard red blisered & painful. Keep it away from pets don't use it internally like in ears or on teeth if u do use it on teeth b sure to dilute it maybe just 2 drops mixed with coconut oil make sure its not a 9% solution use the weakest strength u can find & never use it on animals ever. Not on cuts either & I hate saying this but if u do make sure to use like 2 to 3 drops to some water and use plain water to rinse cut after. I have never got an infected cut before ever in all my years of life but people love & seem to look out for something to kill the germs on their boo boo WTF!!! Some wounds & lacerations would definitely require an antiseptic but for a stupid cut wash with water dry let it air out then bandage simple story over.!   The best uses for HP is for cleaning I will write about that hopefully soon. THE POINT OF THE STORY IS HP IS DANGEROUS & IF THAT STILL DOESNT STOP U FROM USING IT THEN ATLEAST BE EXTREMELY CAUTIOUS AS I HAVE ADVISED USE IT ON URSELF FINE BUT WHAT EVER U DO DONT USE IT ON UR PETS obviously if u do it would be topically but still don't use it no matter what u have heard risk urself if u desire but not ur poor animal that cant speak & peoperly express itself.  In the end it is of use it has its purposes but as with all things tread with extreme caution. Don't use on teeth or on  skin just avoid using it excepting for heavy duty cleaning.  Just imagine if I didn't use the SSS method.  LOL!

Happy Valentines Day...A Message of Self Love.

This message was one that I wanted to convey for the longest time but just didn't but was prompted by Valentines Day just around the corner so here it is. There are so many types of love The kind parents have for children. When you love your parents, brother, sister even a pet. When you fall in love with a person all types are beautiful all are surreal when & if u have a balanced harmonious relationship which is achievable only when both parties decide to make it that way love is a difficult & beautiful thing which is needed by every living individual and animal that exist on this planet that doesn't always mean that we are provided/supplied with the things we need no life doesn't always cater to our needs here is where you learn about sacrifices doing without being on ur own & when I say love I don't mean sex that is even more complicated I mean love in the context of having someone to care for you support u listen to what you have to say advise or simply just be there to say I got ur back to simply say a few kind words be with u when u feel down it can be a friend a Mother father sister for different people may have different people/figures that fulfill those roles in their life & if you have that then appreciate that but how do you feel knowing that you need & depend on people for your happiness what if you don't have that balance what then well one might say we all need someone to support us to talk with well here let me tell u something many people may not be able to tell you I want to talk about SELF LOVE I don't know how many people have been blessed to break that barrier and certain strongholds able to cope with loneliness & harsh criticisms that is never easy to deal with I know that first hand especially if it comes from your own flesh and blood I always felt horrible about myself im to... everything bad but why did I see myself so negatively & feel that way I didn't see it right away but as I grew older I began to realize where this problem stemmed from & for a change it wasn't me & I began to notice that I was conditioned to be a certain way I was almost controlled no I was controlled that caused imbalances in my overall well being that hurt not others but myself acknowledging a problem doesn't make it go away but its step one to change. Personality is a process I mean change of it lol.  But despite what ever never blame anyone else for your flaws or weaknesses I havnt bcuz I always strived to believe I control me despite what ever might have been I choose to let it rest don't let a bad past & present affect u or ur capacity of being good. Where am I going with this if you love yourself truly love yourself you will deal with problems that face you so much better imagine being unbreakable that's what it feels like every time someone tries to tear you down without arrogance you can reflect honestly & say I don't see that nope that's not true instead of the latter being negative wondering why everyone hates you or is so mean blah blah you probably know why I not saying be a dick if someone advises you & tells u something for your own good then don't be a pussy take that advice & use it don't be an arrogant prick on the other hand if someone is being spiteful & wicked then rise above it some battles must be fought not all that can be exhausting & tear you down sap all ur energy & usurp ur balance & well being. I LOVE ME & IT FEELS GOOD SO GOOD I LOOK AT MYSELF & SEE ALL THAT I DESERVE & WONDER HOW & WHY I WAS NEVER ABLE TO SEE IT BEFORE. I cant hate other people for being what ever all that hate I feel for them will only make me miserable & destroy my progress of being better it can be don't im not saying things will be perfect nothing ever really is but it can be so much better than it seems so give yourself hope for the future. Don't blame others instead if ur all alone on ur own say I LOVE ME IM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY HAPPINESS I CAN GIVE MYSELF WHAT I NEED IF FEELS GOOD WHEN ... I LOVE ME HAS MANIFESTED IN UR LIFE IT REALLY IS A GREAT FEELING with that comes the recognition that you & only you is responsible for your happiness. LONG STORY SHORT LOVE YOURSELF TRUELY LOVE YOU. I still struggle but I know where I want to be is achievable & that taste of pride & confidence that I never had certainly feels good just remember practice makes perfect. I truly believe all good things come from god so pray it just might happen for you though that feeling I had of self love wavers & isn't always there lol it is amazing like I said with time I just wanted to share that we all should strive for it to be supportive of yourself & others. I feel like I really put myself out there not to be criticized to hopefully to be of help to others hope this helped if you read this blog then thanks for stopping I love you & don't be afraid to share your thoughts with me so for now bye. :)




 Excuse the poor grammar there's a reason for it was in a real hurry tired but felt the need to share this message I felt was important.